Sunrise: Loss Through Violence

By David Coy


Just the other day someone asked me what was the most difficult aspect of loss?  There are many opinion answers to this question depending on who you ask.  They are all good and there are no wrong answers.  The individual said it was the loss of child.  Others have told me it was the loss of a mate.  I think it is a sudden unexpected loss.  One such example we may talk about today is loss through violence acted upon the victim.  A number of different scenarios may be described here and it is not our intention to do so.  It is our focus to examine the grief that may exist upon the survivors of a loved one who has met their maker through a violent end.

We may not know how they died, or by whom.  If this is the case then we may be dealing with unresolved issues, such as closure.  This will make our mourning and resolution very difficult.  We may think, how can I move forward when I have these questions that remain unanswered?  Or we may think we know the answers and this fuels anger because we think we know, and yet it continues unresolved.  

Perhaps our situation involves a soldier MIA, or perhaps a murder that is a cold case, with no concrete evidence sufficient to close the case labeling it solved.  Whatever our cross we are carrying, it is continual sorrow.  We live with it day by day, ever hopeful or without hope.  We need to find some measure of peace, but how?  Accept the here and now; endure, while we live for the future.  It will be helpful if we embrace the peace that passes all understanding (Philippians 4:7).  There is nothing in this world that can give us the ability to endure as the peace that only God gives, (Psalm 37:4; 94:19; 104:3). We may begin this through our meditation upon his word and positive thoughts (Phil. 4:8; 3:1).  This may take conscious effort.  Be temperate and pray, (Phil. 4:5, 6).  This is Sunrise.